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I went to the laundromat yesterday morning with several loads of laundry. My washing machine at home has not been working this week, and I had to go out with twenty dollars in quarters to get it done!

It was actually nice to get it all done at once. Normally, it would take me a few days to get that much laundry done, but I finished it all in less than 2 1/2 hours. And I learned something valuable.

I am so much more productive when I focus on one thing at a time.

The nature of motherhood requires multitasking. But at some point, we cross from efficient multitasking into overwhelming busyness and our lives resemble the spin cycle of a washing machine.

I think we fall into the spin cycle because we are unable to prioritize unmet needs and unfulfilled responsibilities. We simply put too many things on our to-do list because it pains us to leave things undone. I am learning to go to the Lord and have Him to show me what He would like me to do. He can sort through everything and guide me toward what will be most fruitful and beneficial to my family in a particular day.

This passage comes to mind:

As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!” “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” Luke 10:38-42

I often get annoyed with how these verses are used and interpreted in Christian circles. It’s likely because I am so much like Martha in the passage. The truth is that stuff has to get done. There are things that will never get done unless the momma stays up late or runs herself ragged. There’s not a lot of time to sit like Mary did (not in the demanding motherhood season that many of us are in). It takes some serious effort to set aside and guard the time to sit with Jesus.

We often think that the “one thing” we ought to be doing is always super spiritual because of the context of this passage. But what if Mary knew what the “better” thing was because Jesus communicated that to her? Maybe she asked Him what she could do, maybe He impressed it on her heart that evening, or she saw it in His eyes. Martha missed it because she had her eyes on all of the unmet needs and unfulfilled responsibilities. Mary knew what was needed because she had her eyes on Jesus.

What if I kept my eyes on Jesus and He showed me the one thing I should make a priority in the moment? He knows all things. He knows what my entire day holds. I could escape the spin cycle and actually be more productive, working from a peaceful place rather than a harried one. I could go from one thing to the next and not buckle under the weight of my to-do list. How can other things stress me when I am doing the one thing that He’s asked me to do?

Lord, show me! Lead me! Speak to me about the one thing I can do each moment of the day. I love how Your peace floods my heart when I have my eyes on You. May Your Spirit continually remind me to seek You, ask You, lean on You.

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Here is another post from a blog I no longer write for. I am slowly transferring all my posts to one place. This one is from August 2011.

I love how God works with us in such tangible and visual ways.

He is currently working in me to heal some old wounds. Funny how the healing process can be a bit painful at times. I am learning to trust Him and let Him work in me however He pleases.

A few Sundays ago, He impressed an image on my mind in church during worship. I was standing on a ledge with Jesus. We turned and saw this desolate scene:

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I recognized it as the limestone formations blackened over time in the Cayman Islands. My husband and I stopped there on our honeymoon. Interestingly, the place is named Hell!

In my visual moment with the Lord, He said to me, “Speak to the past and say, ‘You will have no power over me.’ ”

Those dark and dry limestones are a fair portrayal of my past. Maybe yours too. Take heed to the word of the Lord! Your past has no power over you. Your Father God rises to cover you with healing in His wings. (Malachi 4:2)

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Yesterday I had the privilege of going to a baby shower. The picture above features my oldest daughter with the mother-to-be. What a beautiful celebration of God’s work in a young woman, bringing her to the verge of motherhood. All of the guests were asked to give her some written encouragement or advice about mothering. As I thought about the one thing that would be most valuable to share, I decided to encourage her in the area where I have most struggled in motherhood.

My advice was to never forget that God chose her to be the mother of this baby boy. He did this, knowing full well that she would never do it perfectly. This is God’s intention: that His power would be made perfect in her weakness.

He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 2 Corinthians 12:9

Of course, motherhood is such a high calling that our weaknesses become apparent very quickly, ushering in a wave of insecurity. This is compounded by the accusations and doubts of the enemy. We wonder if we’re doing it right, if we’re doing it as well as someone else, if we should do more, read more, be more….and we often forget that the goal is not to perform, but to let our weakness be the conduit through which Christ’s power may rest on us. In essence, we have to embrace our weakness and let the Lord do His work of teaching, transforming, maturing us.

Philippians 1:6 being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.

Ephesians 2:10 For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.

The truth is that we are a work in progress. We are not the foreman on this job; God is! What can we say about His work in us? It’s messy. It requires patience. However, as mothers, we struggle with being imperfect and unfinished. We often operate in a performing-kind-of-work rather than a surrendering-kind-of-work. We forget that God is the only one that can complete this work. We forget that He makes great preparation for this work. We forget that He has promised to finish it.

We fear that because we aren’t finished yet, our imperfections and failures will ruin our children, but it’s actually our tendency to perform and forget that we are God’s work in progress that threatens to unravel our family life.  We put pressure on ourselves to do everything perfectly and pressure on our children to respond perfectly to our parenting performance. All the while forgetting that every person involved is a work in progress. As I type this right now, I see so clearly how this has played out in my home over the last 15 and a half years.

I tend to believe that my weaknesses and failures disqualify me: from being a good parent, from being a good Christian, from being used by God, from enjoying His love and favor. However, it is only my inability to recognize my weakness that disqualifies me! God intends for my weakness to be a reminder of how much I need Him. He hopes that every time I am confronted with my inadequacies, that I will run to Him, that I will cling to Him, that I will make up my mind to hold on to Him and trust Him to work in me every moment of the day!

Friend, your weaknesses and failures do not disqualify you. Your weaknesses are part of God’s plan for your life. Stop pretending, stop performing, and begin to embrace your shortcomings (and the grace He offers) as the tether that will keep you close to God.

That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong. 2 Corinthians 12:10

 

 

 

photo credit: my daughter, Micah De Silvia, created the beautiful shower collage.